NIETHER!!!
I started to tell you this before they came in your 1st post but I was trying to be nice. No time for niceties so I tell you what I tell EVERYONE to say when they are faced with this situation...Tell em to Kiss yo black ass!!!
Four words nice and to the point. Anything else you are playing into their hands and justifying their AUTHORITY over you. Take control of your life be the guiding force in your life and if they try to subject you to their bullshit trumped up rules you tell-em to KISS YO BLACK ASS!